Parenting Questions and Answers

The naming convention of most parents nowadays has become more and more complex and unique names often invade the population. The traditional Mary and John are still around however, they become overshadowed with the fact that almost everyone tends to make each name unique.

In naming your child, one great way is to choose a name that would fit his personality. I know its doubly hard since you may have been thinking of a name already even before the kid is born but it would be worth it. Consider the lifestyle that the child would live if he had a name that he thinks is utterly absurd. Make it a point that the child will be able to love and live out the name that you chose. But try to be cool as well, it will be like telling your child, “Go and live your life. Enjoy!” Make the name unique yet plays a vibrant music to the ears.

Is your child often complaining about a headaches? Is he or she saying that it feels like something is squeezing his or her head? Then it may be migraine. Migraine can be very nerve wrecking for some kids. Here are some of the most helpful tips to help your child cope up with migraine.

1. Stick to regular mealtime.

2. Give your kid plenty of fluids.

3. Choose the right food. You may consider getting the help of a nutritionist as well.

4. Keep track of the triggers.

5. Make sure that the child gets rest.

6. Help her cope with stress

Migraine can be devastating but it is not that hard to cope up with it. Help your kid manage it and train them so that they can handle situations such as this one even if you are not around.

Being a mom is such as stressful job but every had work is worth it when you see the smile in your child’s eyes. However, even mothers need to unwind a little. They need to find ways on how to go out with people they love the most – friends, husband, children, etc. This is also a great time to bond with their children. Here are a few things that they can do to somehow amuse themselves but still live up to the job of being a mother. After all, being a mom is 24 hours 7 days a week kind of job.

1. Go to child friendly establishments

2. Have a good spa

3. Enjoy a grown-up story time

4. Team up and enjoy time with another mom

Reverse psychology is a technique used by parents often so that they can possibly get their child to do the exact opposite of what they are saying. For example, if a parent would ask a child to get better grades in school, he or she may say, “It’s OK, I think you cannot get better grades anyway.” Now, this has two effects – a positive and a negative one. Positive effect is that the child will do his best to study and get better grades and prove to his parents that he can get high grades if he tried harder. The negative side of it is that the child may no longer try harder because he thinks that he will not improve anyway.

It is such a huge gamble to use this technique because you may never know if the child can improve. The results can be either fascinating or devastating. It is a risk but if you think it will work, then go ahead and give it a try.

Being a mother sure is a difficult task. On top of that, each mom should be wary of the way they also look. They need to look presentable to everyone. I read a book before which states that often times, a woman must maintain a pleasant appearance to keep her married life intact. One way to do this fact is to exercise and keep that youthful glow burning. The most difficult part of the body to exercise is the love handle or the oblique muscles (waist). The exercise will be fun because the baby will be involved. Just make sure that the baby can hold his head up high he or she should be at least 6 months old. Here are the steps:

1. Stand up straight and spread your legs hip-wide apart.

2. Contract the abdominal muscles and hold the baby (or a 10-pound medicine ball) slightly out in front of the chest, with elbows bent at a 45-degree angle. Be sure to keep the shoulders down and relaxed.

3. Swivel to the left, center and right and keep each position for 3 seconds.

4. You can do 2 – 3 sets with 5 – 10 repetitions

Keeping the figure has never been easy and fun! Try this out and see the results.

Breaking – up or divorce is a devastating scenario for every family. If in any case this happens, never forget about your child. It would be best to break the news in a way that the child will understand. Do not blame him or her and make sure that you tell them that you are having problems with your spouse and that you are better off when you are away from each other. Always keep your child out of the fight. Never force him to choose sides, never ever use them as a messenger or as a bridge, never discuss child support issues when they are around, never ask or use them to gather information about the other and lastly, never use them as an instrument of torture to hurt the other parent emotionally. If you can’t seem to control the fast paced problem of the divorce that affects your kids, then some counseling will definitely help.

My son has developed a habit of sucking his thumb and touching his eyebrows. He is just 3 years old and I noticed this when I got home from the office. At first it was really disturbing because he may be sucking a lot of germs that may cause diseases. So what I did was I asked the help of my trusted pediatrician for an advice. He gave me a particularly great advice. He told me to ignore the habit and told me that in, time it will pass. He told me not to shout or scold my kid every time I see him suck his thumb, instead, he told me to offer something that would hinder him from sucking his thumb. Activities such as blowing bubbles or enjoying a nice father and son game will be enough and in due time, he will eventually get over the said problem. If in any case that it does not help, then it is about time that I try to make the habit less pleasurable. If he is sucking on his thumb then I might as well buy him a thumb ring which will associate his sucking with dirt and germs.

In summary, we do not actually need to be scared if our kids are into a habit because they will eventually outgrow this habit in due time. However, look for signs of retardation or mental disorder if the habit continuous to be present until he or she is already in grade school.

Anger is something really hard to deal with. Being in a very delicate situation may be very harsh for a child. As a parent, teaching children how to deal with anger may be the turning point of their lives. Anger causes different reactions that may lead to violence. Relationships get broken and lives get ruined because of anger. This emotional state is good in pointing out problems but it does not solve them. It is a good cue to point out that there are a couple of adjustments that has to be done. An important thing to realize also is to have the children recognize when anger sets in. Usually facial expressions are standard signs. Eventually, they will come to realize how to handle the situation before it erupts into a very destructive force. Teach the kids how to step back and be calm when these situations occur. Teach them alternatives in responding to anger. Instead of simply engaging in a fist fight teach them how to converse properly. Teaching your children how to manage their feelings will be a big help in the long run so start now and be amazed on how your child will be able to handle this.