Being a Father
You stand in the corner and watch your little boy runs excitedly towards your wifey. His eyes sparkle with joy and cheer as she carries him in her arms – a perfect picture of mother and child. As you draw a grin on your face, you suddenly realize that your son doesn’t react that way when he’s around you. He is more timid when you play together, showing some sign of discomfort. And geez, you are his father, yet you appear like a stranger to him.
This situation may show that you are building up a wall between you and your son – a situation that you should prevent before it grows thicker, not allowing you to develop a good bonding between him. The causes of this are simple – it can be your tight schedule as a career dad, lack of interest doing such activities, or you can’t put down the remote control of your tv and just prefer to watch your favorite sitcom rather than playing with him.
Yes, these simple things can lead to an unhealthy relationship with him. And before this happens, take these steps to gain that vibrant, joyful look when your son runs toward you….
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Give time for your kids. Your schedule is not an excuse for not having the time for your children. As busy as you might be, as a father, you need to find a moment you can share with them – even just a minute of affection, a tight hug or a warm kiss, will do. Such affection can make them feel that you are their parent.
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Play with them. Find the best activities that will enrich their well-being and develop your relationship with them. Whether it’s solving the jigsaw puzzle or chasing each other at the backyard, release all the energy you have and show your love while you play with them. This way, you’ll be able to gain their cheer once they feel your presence.
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Nurture them. Do things that your spouse usually do – bather them, feed them, read them stories and be with them until they fall asleep. Remember that being the provider of your family is not an excuse to skip these activities – especially when you really like to get close to your kids because it is in these things where you can show what they mean to you.
